I have been going out with my boyfriend (M) for 5 years now, we were a very happy couple…until last week. On November 3th he went to Madrid for his best friend´s stag night; I already knew that they were celebrating it in a striptease pub, surrounded by gorgeus dancers and all that stuff, but I trusted M, I always did…therefore I didn’t give importance to it.
He returned the next day and all seemed normal to me, but two days after his return he told me that he had had an affair with a girl he met in Madrid. I could not believe it…after all the time we spent together, after all the plans for the future we had made… It was like a slapon my face. I started to cry and I told him to leave me alone, ignoring his apologies -“I was a bit drunk” – “It was only a kiss” – “I’m terribly sorry” and I locked myself in the bathroom for almost two hours. It was a terrible confession. I’d never do that to the person I love!
Since then he has been phoning me three or four times every day, but I can’t just forgive him and forget everything… I´m still in love with him and I thought that he felt the same, but I´m not so sure anymore… I want him to understand that I won’t tolerate that kind of behaviour. After all we were planning to get married! I have my heart broken in this moment and I don’t know what to do.
I’ve not spoken to my friends or family because I don’t want to worry them with this, so I’m begging for your help here. Please, I desperately need help.
K. from London